So as discussed, i’ll also be detailing the love lives of some of my friends on here. Last summer, to celebrate turning the ripe old age of 30, I asked a few of my closest friends to come away with me. I don’t tend to do birthdays but as you can imagine I was going through a pretty rough time and I just needed a break with my girls. This was, as it turned out, my first single holiday in ten years – I was excited but also nervous as hell.
It’s not something you ever get taught is it – how to be single. In my head, i’m still in a relationship because I am just accustomed to always being part of a pair. It’s something i’m working on getting used to and I don’t want this blog to focus on my past but to only look forward. If you do have any questions though, feel free to get in touch and i’ll be as honest as possible about dealing with a marriage break up and pushing onward and upwards.
So anyway – Croatia was the destination of choice. Any excuse for all of us to tan and party, plus it’s where they film Game of Thrones so of course the first thing I did was get that tour booked in! We spent one day at an all day beach club and one thing I always say is that if there are fellow Asian’s around, they will find us. And they did.
So the five of us are sunbathing, and next to us arrive a group of three lads also from the UK. We start chatting, very casual, and the next thing we know, one of them has taken one of my friends, i’ll call her A, and they’ve gone for a swim. Approximately 1.5 hours later, they come back, having had a lovely chat – nothing more. They let us know where they will be going out that night, and we were planning on going to the same place so we’ll see them there. A tells me all about this guy – his name is Neil and he works in banking or something, and they have taken a boys holiday because one of them is also going through a divorce and needed a break.
We meet up with them later that evening at what remains one of the oddest nights out of my life – Neil asks A if he can have a word, they go off and return five minutes later where they appeared to have had a few heated words. A says that Neil told her he likes her but his friend also likes her and so nothing can happen. Apparently we’re back in high school but no biggie – they leave and we carry on partying until 5am, the only way to do it on holiday.
A few days later, we return home and A receives an email. Please do read and share the below. This is one of the reasons I am terrified of dating again – who knows who on earth you’re going to come across! Why did he send it? Who is he?
PS – from a fake email address, he located her work email…
Hope you got back home safely.
Sorry for contacting you at work, but only knowing where you work and your first name I didn’t really have any options. Not sure what I am doing writing this, but since leaving Croatia felt a little uneasy. I haven’t really put any thought in to this, just going to let my fingers go and see what comes out.
I guess firstly I wanted to say I’m sorry the way things turned out that night, but after I tell you what I am about to, I guess you will be relieved it turned out that way. I told you that I am a no – bullsh*t kind of guy, and I really am not but there was a web of lies behind us that day, not sure why am telling you and I’ve been told to leave it alone, but I don’t lie very often and when I do it doesn’t sit right.
I am not exactly the person you met, there were a few things missed out of my life that probably shouldn’t have. I’ll start with why we were there, just the three of us, and its wasn’t to do with XX’s divorce, it was to do with me. I had been going through a pretty rough patch in my personal life for a few months, so that lads decided that I needed to get away from it all, which is why we decided that we are going to have one big old flirt fest. XX is in fact very happily married, the good Dr. is engaged and I am also married, I also have two beautiful daughters. Remember its truth time, so everything you are reading is 100% real.
Why did we lie?.we thought we could get away with a bit of banter so started the ‘XX story’, there was no real script, he said it and we just went with it. Stupid…. Totally! but at the time we thought it was completely harmless….at no point did I imagine someone like you would come along. It was always, chat a few girls up, have a laugh and leave it at that.
Ok let’s get back to me…. I read economics at university. Left university and started a business which grew very fast and after 9 years it was a national company which I sold to a larger organisation, I now handle their mergers and acquisitions (yes, it’s as we spoke about, we buy companies and kill them off or integrate them) for the new company. I also on the side have a property company with my dad and brother. Everything I told you about my family was true.
I met my wife in college, but only started dating when we started university, she was my first serious girlfriend and pretty much the only girl I knew. We dated through university and got married approximately 6 years ago. I have two daughters, who are my world, one is 4 and the other is 2. We got married very young and over the last few years our marriage hasn’t been that great, we both try, but that is the thing, we try! Not ideal but keep it together for my kids I guess.
That day in the club, we stood in the corner and I had to take a little time out about how we went from there, if I was going to be completely honest the only thing keeping me from taking things any further is the fact that I lied to you and that wasn’t fair and my kids. I felt something when I was with you, that I knew I couldn’t act on but I felt something that I hadn’t in a very long time. I appreciate that it’s a lot to take in, but I had to clear this. We spoke in the sea about your faith in men, I wouldn’t let a bloke like me ruin that for you…you are amazing.