Hi everyone! I’m baaaaaaack. Missed me? As if.
So I managed to get through a month of fasting – it was tough in the heat but pushed through and actually it was quite rewarding having some space to just think about who I am now and how much things have changed since this time last year so feeling very positive!
Also had my family over for a couple of weeks from India which was a lovely distraction and just what I needed!
Obviously the moment it finished I got my apps back online to see what I’d missed. Not much really – people that I had matched with but not spoken to I just unmatched and decided to start afresh. I’ve been out and about flat hunting so while I was doing that, I decided to get on it and see if I could meet someone living near that area – and it worked!
I matched with someone on bumble last weekend, we exchanged a few messages and agreed to meet and that was that – so no actual messaging in between which was quite nice because it meant we would have lots to talk about. Or so I thought…
Cue a very nervous and slightly awkward date that lasted approx 90 minutes (ironic as we had agreed to skip the football and meet instead) and he could not have got out there fast enough when it was over! I thought I was trying quite hard – asking a lot of questions and trying to keep the mood light but I think he was definitely nervous and also a little bit unused to people asking him questions. He told me he had been on some bad dates and never been in a serious relationship… but he also didn’t seem to really be listening to anything I said because he kept changing the subject or just not really getting what I was saying.
Safe to say there won’t be a second date which is fine, there wasn’t really any kind of spark and also, I need someone who’s going to actually listen to what I say because I talk a lot!
Need to now get back online properly since the sun is out and London feels like a great city to date in when the weather is good! Next update to follow soon hopefully but before I go, two quick things.
Firstly – I had another date a while ago that I actually forgot about… clearly it was not a good date but I only remembered when I was flicking back on my posts and I feel that the whole point of this is to share everything with my lovely readers so here it goes. About two months ago-ish – I did something I know you should never do and I never will again – but I went round to a guys house for the first date. In my defence, it was a 10 minute drive from my own house and I just figured it would be more convenient because it was a Sunday and we had been trying to make plans to meet during the week and they kept failing.
To cut a long story short, I got to his, he looked like a miniature version of the man in his pictures, he gave me a grand tour of his house which was very boring because he was very arrogant about it and kept telling me how much it all cost, we watched a film that was one hour and forty minutes, I sat as far away from him as possible and the minute the film was over I told him I was really tired and basically ran away. Just was no fun at all and got a really really bad vibe from him. Lesson learned to not do that again – but can confirm that Get Out is a really good film and it’s the only reason I didn’t leave sooner!
Second thing is that I just want to give a quick shout out to my friend B. If you’re reading this (scrap that, you better be!) then just want to say a huge thank you to you for all your amazing support. All my friends have been brilliant and I know I’m very lucky but B has had a lot of her own stuff going on which makes me even more grateful that I am blessed enough to have her in my life. I’m just coming back from a very random and unplanned weekend with her and I had the most amazing time and it really makes my appreciate how important she is. I’m never going to say that I don’t regret all the bad stuff that has happened or wish that things had worked out differently but I know it’s all for a reason and the wonderful things I get to do now that I never would have been able to do before are a testament to that. Thanks for being my soulie.
Think that’s enough for now – byeeeeeeee.